sexual experimentation - a rite of passage?

There's a white elephant in the room. Actually, the elephant isn't white


at all, it's mainly black, unless of course I'm colorblind. That elephant is thousands-strong and includes a lot of our Dominican young men and women.  

While our society parades itself as this happy group of heterosexuals we have a marauding, increasing number of young people who "dabble" in homosexual and bisexual lifestyle as a coming of age activity. 

I see it at activities, I hear about it from my younger family and friends. It's in their schools, churches, groups, etc. Young men and women who are secretly and not so secretly experimenting with their sexuality in an effort to "find" themselves. Since when does sex and sexual preference help you to find yourself? 

While we may never have the statistics to prove this, mainly because of the social taboos we place on sex as a society, we still need to have the fora where we can address/discuss youth sexuality. 

For too long we've allowed these discussions to be held behind closed doors and among friends, often times giving misguided or misleading information and with little or no guidance. No one to provide the basic facts and truths.

So as I write and you read, hundreds of Dominican young men and women are flirting with their sexuality. As a friend put it, "they're not exactly gay, they just prefer women for now because I know some of them who still have boyfriends" and once the experimentation is over, they will revert to their boyfriends. He was speaking about a group of young women but I'm sure it could have very well been a group of young men also and not simply because of their clothing or demeanour. Our young men are flirting with bisexuality as much as our young women. 

Is the experience worth it? Is this bisexual culture a healthy one? Is it a phase? Or is this culture something that has always been there, occurring behind closed doors? 

Is it solely due to the influence of the American media and culture that daily bombard us with images of the rainbow culture? No it isn't, Dominica already had gays, lesbians and bisexuals long before the first television was hooked up to electricity. While it is true that we have more overseas influence in this generation in comparison to past generations we can't simply lump the issue into that heap. 

Sexual experimentation long been heralded as a rite of passage for young people as they journey to adulthood but they should know that their sexual preferences shouldn't define who they are or who they want to be... 

It's one thing to experiment, it's a totally different arena when you think that the experimentation will somehow define the kind of person you will become in the future... 

How do we address this? Is there a need to address it? Who will address it? The Church? Schools? Government? Youth Council? 

One thing is for sure, our sexuality will continue having an impact on our individual and collective health as a society as we still grapple with the taboo and secrecy that exist in hypocritical Dominica. 

If we pretend it doesn't exist and we don't address the repercussions, it will just go away... Yea right, Dominica... Yea right!

Erotica

Erotica
By Delroy Nesta Williams

I want you all naked and sweaty in my bed, panting for breath

Legs on my shoulders, twisted in all kind of positions...
Look into my eyes with lust and want
Time to slam my dick into that warm, wet cunt
Let that pussy purr for me
Fingernails digging into my back
Toes curling, head tilted to the side
Riding on top of me as our bodies collide
This moist friction as my waist meets your hips
Motioning like the waves when rocking ships
A few bites to the neck to mark what's mine
I see the look in your eyes
And that sheepish kinda smile
Hands on my back massaging up and down my spine
But now it's time to change positions and let me take command
Pour some red wine out from the bottle And let me suck it from your navel
Some melted chocolate to lick off those nipples
So erect, standing at attention
Meeting my lips so my tongue can salute them
I hear you hiss and slither like a serpent in motion
Slap that ass let you know who's in control
Slowly, slowly then quicken the rhythm
And suddenly, you shudder under me
Pussy fluids flowing like a river
Turn you over let me ram you from behind
Girl, the fuck fest has just begun
Oh this definitely is not a quickie
I'm gonna enjoy this til you draw out the last drop of cum from me
One hand on your shoulder, another on your waist
Roll that ass as I enter with rhythmic pace
Take your time baby, just call out my name
Because this is a marathon not a sprint race
We've got hours to go, I'm not a one-round show
Hop up around my waist
It's time for the wheelbarrow
A bite to my chest
But never on my neck
Please don't stop what you're doing though
I can't wait for what's next
Nibble on my ear lobe
Even bite the tip of my lips
I'm cuming girl, I can no longer resist
And I explode like a mine in a war field
I'm shedding all skin like I've been cured from leprosy
Panting for breath as you lie on top of me
I hope you're ready for round two and three!

Value Your Vagina - the poem

Disclaimer:  This poem contains local vernacular which may be deemed as graphic descriptions of the human (male and female) anatomy; and may not be suitable for minors.

Value your vagina
Delroy N. Williams

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies

I not sure what you would want me to call it
Vagina, coocoolux, sousoon or pussy
But allu need to value it.
Too many women just offering up de cyat for a few cents
Let “men” work for de kehkeck
A meal at KFC,
A BlackBerry!
Gives direct entry to your punanny?
Sometimes with no condom
So is skin to skin friction
Leading to greater affliction
I not talking bout only de HIV infection
It have syphilis, gonorrhea an’ crabs
All kinda tings you could contract!
If de poupouse could talk,
Den what would it say?
Cuz de man doh care much about what becomes of your cyat, after dat
He just wants his 5, 4, 3 sometimes 2 minutes of joy
You done fall victim to his ploy
He walks away after another conquest
With dis ear-to-ear kinda smile
And you alone leff to take the morning after pill
Or deal with a pickney after 9 months
Poor little Gina
Started working 8 to 4
As soon as de young girl stepped outta her mamma’s door
Becuz raging hormones an’ peer pressure
Got little lady feeling left behind
Wanting to be big woman.
Before she 12, she developing curves an’ bumps,
So she feels she needs to open her legs an’ get humped.
For her, it’s difficult to wait
Cuz all her friends in it
And if their poloos in tact
Why should hers disintegrate from a lack of sex?
But she doh see de big picture
This kakalak should be treated like a Cadillac
And not the Nissan Sunny
Dat providing ride for everybody!
Aint it funny, though
Dat dose friends who influenced her
Will chit chat at her back
Once de pumpum gets turned up.
And dat poke will never be the same
Salt water an blue soap cyah help fix
What the tongue of man has broken
So young lady think of abstaining
Take your time before you rush in
To somethin dat you jus cyah handle
Cuz a stiff cock has no conscience
An’ a loose pussy no lock!